What is Big Brother Naija 2017 without Tboss...

Big Brother Naija 2017 without Tboss is like watching your favourite show without that character that gives it the hmmph, the punch, the whatchamacallit now…the spice. She is to BBN what 

1. Penny is to ‘Big Bang Theory’

2. A combination of Jane and Petra in ‘Jane the Virgin’

3. That crazy sexy smart Jane in ‘Being Mary Jane’

4. Jessica Pearson in ‘Suits’

5. Annalise Keating in ‘How to get away with murder’

And my all time favourite, 

6. A cross between Daenerys Targaryen and Brienne of Tarth in ‘Game of Thrones’

Love her or hate her, Tboss is badass, beautiful, intelligent, emotional, very human (with flaws and all).  She will put you in your place, not afraid to say her mind, never indulges in gossiping, quick to apologise without holding any grudges.

That is why she needs to remain in the show, we need to see more of strong women on our TVs.   Women who are not afraid to take chances, explore, live life to the fullest and still be as beautiful as our Tboss.

Vote for Tboss people.  Morning, afternoon and night…like it’s your daily dose of Entertainment vitality. To vote, 

SMS the words "Vote Tboss" to  32052

OR

Download the wechat app, add the Africamagic channel and click on the BBNaija link which is located on the lower right side of the screen and select 'Tboss' and click away till you get to 100 votes.  Do not share your votes...I repeat...DO NOT SHARE.  😊

Vote Tboss

Hello guys,

My friend, Tboss is an house mate in the Big Brother Naija 2017 show and she has been nominated for eviction this coming Sunday 4th March, 2017.  I need your votes to keep her in the house, i would like for her to celebrate her birthday in the BBN house come 9th of March.  I don't want her out of that house just yet.

This is an appeal to everyone reading this.  Please vote to keep my friend in the show.  To vote, please follow the following steps:

SMS the words "Vote Tboss" to  32052

OR

Download the wechat app, add the Africamagic channel and click on the BBNaija link which is located on the lower right side of the screen and select 'Tboss' and click away.

This applies to Nigerian viewers only.  Remember, when voting via SMS follow the rules below:
1.  DO NOT use hashtags in your text.
2. Always use the word 'Vote' before Tboss name.
3. DO NOT vote for 2 housemates in one SMS
4. DO NOT add any more words to the words 'Vote Tboss' in your SMS
5. Please Keep it Simple, just text 'Vote Tboss' to 32052.

SMS - 'Vote Tboss' to short code 32052 OR download Wechat app, add the Africa Magic Channel and vote for Tboss on the Big Brother Naija show

Dear Fans, i know you love Tboss and i love her too, we all do but please let's desist from cursing other housemates, Tboss wouldn't like that, trust me.  This is a game, we hope that our favourite housemate makes it to the very end but we will always play fair.

Remember, Love God, Love People, Vote Tboss.

All about Tboss

Hello Fans,

Over the weeks since the Big Brother Naija show began airing, I have had so many people call me to ask a variety of questions about Tboss.  I'm going to try and answer all the questions using this medium over a couple of weeks.  Let's do this.

What is Tboss DOB

Tboss was born, 9th of March.

How old is Tboss?

Tboss is 32 years and will be 33 on her next birthday 9th of March.

Is Tboss married?

Tboss is not married and she is not in any relationship presently.

Does Tboss have a job?

Tboss is the head of Marketing, DarkKnights Motorsports.  Please refer to this blog's post 'All in a day's job - DarkKnight Motorsports'.

Does Tboss have any children?

Tboss has no kids yet.

What's her best food?

Tboss is a lover of food, GOOD FOOD. Good healthy, nice looking food (not that foul looking stuff they were served with during the 'fear and superstition week' at the BBN house).  She eats Amala, Ofada rice, Ogbonno, Afang, Oha....  She is adventurous enough to try cuisine from different countries and love it.  She wont try snails though, nope.

Why wont Tboss dance?

She believes she cannot dance and would rather not try it for fear of looking foolish.  Read about this on 'To dance or not to dance'. 

What's Tboss favourite colour?

Hmmmm...hmmmm, Tboss likes to wear dark toned colours and she also likes white...if i were to pick her favourite colours, i'd say blue, black, white, red, ...

What does Tboss like doing?

I could go on and on about this.  She likes to cook, clean. She comes alive at night and she would put on some music and start cleaning, that's what earned her the name 'Vampy'.  You may have noticed that she is particular about cleaning in the BBN house.  That is who she is.  Tboss has OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, she gets irritated when things are not in order or a place is untidy.

What schools did Tboss attend?
Tboss completed her Secondary School education at the Federal Government Girls' College, Calabar in 2001.  
She did a stint at the University of Abuja where she studied Law for close to a year from 2003 to 2004.  
This was closely followed by a degree in Political Science from the University of Bucharest, Romania in 2008.

University of Bucharest, Romania in 2008

Got any more questions about Tboss? Please drop your questions on the comment boxes and i'll definitely get to answer them.

Have a beautiful week.

All in a day's job - DarkKnight Motorsports

A few days ago, Tboss mentioned to Banky W that she was the Head of marketing of DarkKnight Motorsports Limited. Yes she is and yes DarkKnight Motorsports does exist and it has been in existence for 8 years.  DarkKnight Motorsports or DKMS is an indigenous organization primarily tasked with with developing motorsports in Nigeria in partnership with the Nigerian Ministry of Youth and Sports Development.The organization is a platform which conducts, supervises and sanctions both professional and amateur motorsport activites.

Motorsports trend across the world and has been a source of tourist attractions in various centres across the globe including Dakar, Dubai, Lebanon .  DKMS is set to position itself along with other major local and international brands to participate in such events and as part of its Corporate Social Responsibility, the DKMS is working, along with the Ministry of Youth and development to create Jobs and empower the Nigerian youth. 

Left to Right: Mohammed Suleiman (Director, DarkKnights Motorsports), Ademola Are (Director of Grassroot Sports Development, Federal Ministry of Youth and Sports), Tboss (Head of Marketing, DarkKnights Motorsports), Christian Chinyeaka Ohaa (Permament Secretary - Ministry of Youth and Sports Development), a friend of DKMS and Abdulmalik Kusherki (Head of Operations, DarkKnights Motorsports)

Tboss is really passionate about youth development and she has been in the front lines of the DKMS pursuit to get the Ministry of Youth and Sports Development to collaborate with the organization. As Head of Marketing Tboss has been able to promote DKMS as the next most viable form of marketing for companies like Glo, Airtel, Samsung, First Bank, UBA and the list goes on. Motorsport being able to attract thousands of attendees would not only encourage competitive sportsmanship but will also present a huge platform for brands to become visible to a set target demographic. Darkknight Motorsports Limited in partnership with the Ministry of Youth and Sports Development will soon reveal the plans to put together a Go Kart track in Abuja. Most major professional racers started with Go Karting and they are also about to build a platform which would develop the future of Nigerian motorsports. Also a Drift Arena will also be built to further develop the motorsport known as Drifting which is very popular in Abuja. This is just the tip of the iceberg because what Tboss and her team are doing has never been done in Nigeria and Tboss can only show you all rather than simply talk it.  

For more information, please visit https://m.facebook.com/darkknightmotorsports/  

With fans like this...

…the world is your oyster baby. 

Shout out to all the people that support Tboss, who have stood by her through the weeks, from the moment she walked on stage till now.  You recognized that she’s human and has flaws, but everybody deserves a 2^nd, 3^rd, and even a 4^th chance.  You didn’t conform to the usual but you reached for the most unlikely. 

This is to all of you out there, who have stood by her when she stood alone, fought for her, cried with her and shared her laughter.  We may have no idea where this journey will lead but we're grateful that you have stood with
Tboss every step of the way

From the bottom of our hearts we thank you Leylah Scarlet, Monique, Isha, Mufasa, Cantinah, Chase, Betty, Rosie, Kate Ferry, Mbie, Lebo Twala, Dee, Mildred, Jenny, Maureen, Miz J, Richard, Amara precious, Chano, Presh, Hephzibah, Sayrah, Debbie Owen, Blepat, Vikkydanny, Gwen, Mulla, Sera, Steven, Glosh, Vicky, Kimani, Indiana, Elizabeth and all the Whatsapp family.

You guys are a ROCK.  Against the cultural divide, from SA, Kenya, even Uganda wasn’t left out.  You threw in your support from Ghana, Zimbabwe, Zambia and back home in Nigeria...  Truly love knows no boundaries.

Across the social media platforms – Twitter, facebook, Instagram we acknowledge your support dear fan pages.  @tbossdefence (that’s right you are now, @holytboss…you make us so happy with your sharp tweets),@tbossarmy, @teamtboss, you are the life of twitter. I see @tboss_bbnaija123 on Instagram and I see love.  Thank you.

There’s no way I could forget all our IG fans.  We may not always mention you but we see you – wuwu_u, Tonye_01, Maxwellblier, ms_patco, osarisihope, mzcocogirl, vicksjj, luvfyfy....

Thank you all so much for standing with #Tboss.

And for the Fan Fam not mentioned here, dont be shy, drop your name or nickname in the comment box and we'll be sure to mention you in our next Fan Fam shout out.  Know this for sure, we appreciate you.

Inima De Tigan - Heart of a Gypsy (1)

On February 16^th 2017 I was watching the Big Brother Naija Musical performance by the Housemates.  It was really good what they did with the little they had.  Thumbs up to ThinTallTony, a masterpiece of artistry I must say.  He’ll make a good director that one. 

Of particular interest to me of course was Tboss’s performance.  I bet she was worried she wouldn’t do so well or would fall face flat or … she turned out really perfect.  Perfect, fullstop.  Big brother must have thought they were so good that he rewarded them with pizza and drinks and then…Tboss did something that most people wouldn’t do for their friends.  How many of the Big Brother Housemates have friendships so deep that they would take time out to read the days (note they don’t have calendars or wristwatches in the house with them), carefully plan out the day and then honour their friends on live TV? This girl knew that her best friends birthday was on February 16^th, 2 days after valentine’s day and she waited until she got everyone together and wished her friend a happy birthday.  If that is not loyalty and friendship, I wonder what is?  She wears her emotions on her sleeves as well as her love for the people that are close to her heart.  She said something to her friend that day, she said, “…maybe one day you will get to meet my new family…” Family?  Family.  She considers her fellow housemates her family and she is indeed right because this her people that have been cooped in that space for her for this long, they might as well be her family. 

People say she is manipulative, ok, I get that.  Manipulative, maybe.  Let’s take a look at her ‘manipulative’ strategies so far:

1.       She put Miyonse up for Eviction and then went back to ask Biggie to reverse it. 

2.       She ‘manipulatively’ cried when she let Efe down because she had given up their slot for cooking the Indomie challenge.

3.       The audacity of the young lady to manipulate the housemates into singing a birthday song for her best friend just to earn our votes.  *gasp*

4. How about when she asked Biggie to get Efe a gift...a birthday gift.  Hmmm!!! 

Let’s not forget this is someone that beat herself up over not getting the answers to Biggie’s high stake game on Sunday the 19^th.  Was she trying to manipulate the viewers to loving her, feeling sorry for her, voting for her…?  The judging scales are in your hands, weigh them out. 

Tboss wears her emotions on her sleeves, whether it is love, disgust, dislike.  She cannot carefully conceal her thoughts or feelings.  We the viewers see all of this and of course we are quick to dish out our judgments (laden with spoonful of derogatory and wounding comments).  That’s okay isn’t it, that’s what she is up there for, our very own entertainment. 

 I believe that Tboss whom we often refer to as the 'Inima De Tigan' (Heart of a Gypsy)  has no idea how great she is and this might just be her weakness.  

Tboss - A way with animals

Tboss loves animals as long as they're cute, flurry, she'll take her chance with lions even.  Not me.  Nope, animals are cute from far off. Finish.

She had a scare once though, she picked up a chick who was lagging behind its mother and the mother hen flew at her trying to peck out her eyes.  That didn't serve her right.  She still goes around picking up animals,  Nne why?

I cant deal.  I'm out.

Unity in Diversity

I have never come across two people who behave the exact same way – talk alike, think alike, act alike.  They might have some similarities, yeah but they’re never always the same. 

Nigeria is like a boiling pot of ethnicity and temperaments.  The Yorubas are known for their boisterousness, the Igbos are known to be industrious,  and the Calabars… well they’re known for a lot of things.  Things is, with all our differences we learn to tolerate each other so well that we make other nations envy our way of life, (maybe not our economy). 

I think the essence of the big brother Naija 2017 is to capture the rainbow of our cultural heritage and the raw talents that exist in the Nigerian.  When we watch the show, our focus shouldn't necessarily be on who is real or not real just by our own perceived views of what is real and what is not real.  

Just because one person can not speak the Naija pidgin so well doesn’t make him or her less Naija than the one who does.  The show has opened my eyes to the rich varieties of personalities we possess as Nigerians.  There is the quiet unassuming Nigerian, the loud obnoxious entertaining Nigerian, the sweet and silly Nigerian, the Nigerian that is just loved by everyone else but we don’t know why, ‘we just like am, we dey feel the guy’, then there is the diva that nobody really understands so it’s just easy to write her off or cast her down.  All of these people are Nigerians, na their way be that. E nor mean say becos I nor dey like A or B, I dey better than them, A and B get their style, my own style is completely different. 

The housemates are in the house to offer some sort of entertainment and cussing them out is not going to epp any one.  We should just really relax and enjoy the show the same way we do ‘telemundo’ or ‘supersports’ (guys go dey abuse me for this one), or whatever show takes your fancy.  Respect the individuality of each housemates and just enjoy them for who they are. 

Cheers!!!

A bond like no other

Once you become her friend, you automatically become part of her family.  No lies. 

They draw you in, feed you fat and never mind that you don’t understand the string of Romania that is being spoken over your head, just make you part of them.

Her family stands by each other in everything.  They’re a curious blend of differences.  Very Nigerian, very Romanian.  Go figure.  

They’re a loyal bunch too. Loyal to family, loyal to friends. I recently read that some quarters went on the internet claiming that Tboss's family were ashamed of her and had written her off.  That is untrue.  Her family are solidly behind her, if they have anything against her they wont go public with it, they’d wait until they were safely behind their doors, lock the doors, have a heated argument in very rapid Romania and then come out like

 ‘this is our smiling face’.

And of course, family protects you from hurting yourself, that is why, many years ago, Tboss was singing along to Busta Rhymes/Mariah Carey 'I know what you want', she said “I will climb the mountain high…”  Christo interrupted her with a warning “You go just fall”.  She didn't fall then and she is not about to fall now because she has people like Christo always fighting for her, defending her and no matter how hard they fight each other, nothing will ever break their bond. 

Oh! and FYI,  if Tboss and Goldilocks are having an argument, stay out of it.  Those 2 will come together in no time and you’ll be left sweating like a fish out of water. 

Family is everything.

You gotta kiss a lot of frogs...

Tboss loves to love and … love… and love again…and love some more.  She watches Indian movies a lot cos they feed her belief in the 'forever after'(the frustrating thing is she cries along with them 😬😬😬).   If I had a penny for every time the ‘loving’ boomeranged, I would be sitting on a gold mine but she never gives up, she just keeps loving.  I have little patience for love but Tboss is in love with the concept of love.  

Deep down though, i know she really wants to be with the 'one' and in a quest to find him...she has had her fair share of frogs.  That girl has kissed different species of frogs.  There was the:

1.      Wood Frog:  I didn’t like the wood frog at first, until I got to know him.  He was funny and sensitive and treated Tboss like she was the centre of his world.  

2.      I never met the Pickerel Frog, but he could have been the one to turn to a prince but for an unfortunate accident. C'est la vie. 

3.      The Common Frog was just that, common.  There was nothing special about this one.  He went off into the sunset with another damsel and left Tboss with a heart ache the size of Australia.

4.      Hahahahaha.  I have no idea why I chose to call this one the ‘Cuban tree frog’, He was a joke right from the start but we weren't laughing when it ended.

5.      The Gray tree frog was a ninja when it came to hiding his true nature. Dude was the sleek operator until his insecurities hit us smack in the behind.

Seriously though, it's not just the guys that Tboss loves, she does try to reach out to the ladies as well (not to kiss them or anything funky like that, just as friends) but seeing as we ladies tend to pull each other down like a strong holds in an MFM retreat, she withdraws to herself.  She has a big heart and its easy for people to just take advantage of that.  Watching her on the Big Brother Naija show got me afraid.

Will she kiss anymore people in there? I dunno, i just know that decision is hers alone to make.
Will she be hated if she kisses someone else in the big brother naija house? Heck, yeah. The notion that Tboss wont have haters is like believing that 'green flying horses' exist. Her family and close friends have her back so let them bring it on.

I salute Tboss because she's not afraid to put her faith out there.  Love her or hate her, she will be, who she will be. She wont give up on love i know.  No matter where (in the big brother house or not) or who it is with (T&C apply), Tboss will kiss a lot of frogs until she finds her prince Charming and there's nothing no one can do about it. 

Happy Valentine's day Lovers.   

Tboss - To dance or not to dance

Goldilocks (Tboss sister) and myself used to dance a lot.  That house in Etonko street Calabar, holds a lot of memories for us, *sigh*.  Once their Father was out of the way, we would rock to Kevin Little or Sean Paul or whatever was trending then, trying out the different moves seen on the musical videos in front of a mirror until we got it right.  Not so, Tboss.  She would sit in a corner watching us with a small wishful smile on her face.  I tried everything to get her to dance to no avail.  One of those days, I tried to pull her forcefully out of the chair onto the ‘dance floor’  and almost lost my arm in the process.  She resisted me with so much strength, damn!!! That girl is every level of strong.  Never underestimate her. 

She always has that wishful smile on her face every time she sees people dancing, I mean really dancing.  She’ll whip out her camera and record their dancing so she could watch it later.  I believe she really wants to dance but there’s no clear communication between her legs and her head.  I imagine that the conversation between her head and her legs would go thus:

Brain: Go left

Feet: (Going right)

Brain: (yelling) The other left stupid, too late beat has changed, shake your booty now…

Feet: (completely out of sync) stop yelling at me, why don’t you shake your booty if you think it is that easy.

The result of this conversation is an uncoordinated robotic movement.  She did try to dance once in a Romanian club but that attempt was shot down by her sister – Goldilocks who told her “What are you doing? Don’t do that again, go and sit down before you embarrass me”.  That was the end of dancing for her. 

One day in preparation for a Night out, we ‘hired’ another friend to ‘teach’ her some moves.  Tonye made some progress that night, we at least got her to move from side to side and to clap her hands in time to the move.  When we got home that night, Tboss told me, as she wiped make up off her face, “I’d give anything to dance the way you guys do”. 

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TBoss – The Miss-Understood

I remember the first time I met T-boss.  It was in 1998 I think, at a mutual friends house.  I hated her, gawd, I hated her.  She was beautiful, with skin so tanned and dark eyes that bore into my mind reminding me that she was indeed beautiful.  I didn’t want to be reminded so I stopped looking into her eyes.  Her hair was in place, every strand neatly pressed and smacked down with gel (I’m sure it was one of those black gels that were in the markets that period) and nails trimmed to absolute obedience.  She was perfecto. I didn’t like that this small town Calabar Chick made me feel so inadequate.  It wasn’t her fault that my over processed hair was wild and untamable or that my nails were screaming ‘ I dig soil for fun’, nope that didn’t help.  She smiled at me that day and I froze, I must have scowled back because the smile disappeared.  We didn’t speak to each other that day but the next time we met, she smiled and said to me ‘Can I count your braids?’.  From that moment on, we became friends. 

I began to get a glimpse into the soul of a young girl everyone thought was aloof, proud, snobbish.  It’s easy to miss-understand Tboss, she carries herself with a certain air of elegance that can be translated into snobbery but over the years I have come to realize this is her way of hiding her own feeling of inadequacy or of not belonging, never fully belonging to a clique, a people, a tribe.  She’s human, even more so than the good people I know – me included.  She will give her last meal to a starving friend, take the cloth off her back to cover the nakedness of a total stranger.  She has given money to a little girl on the streets selling oranges, who was afraid to go home because she’d lost all the money she had.  That doesn’t make her awesome, it just makes her human. 

We used to hang out on the balcony of the Idowu house a lot and so it was, on that same balcony, 2 broke girls decided to start an NGO where we would cater to youths and women in homes of domestic violence.  Life got in the way of that dream…for me at least, but not for Tboss.  She currently is working to empower youths as the head, marketing of Dark Knights Motor Sports.  Her desire to empower youths has led her into the corridors of power in a bid to get government attention to the gains of engaging young Nigerian youths through competitive events involving the use of motorized vehicles.

The thing is, Tboss might come off as being proud, but her friends are everyday people, people she is comfortable with, people like Ekene the cook, the fabric seller in Wuse Market, Rufus the Cab driver, Tonye who works in a bank, all of them ordinary people.  They have seen past the beautiful face and the bougie clothes, to them, Tboss is soul. Then there is her family, to them, Tboss is everything.

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